Go Ahead…Take that Shot

Yup, here it comes, the dreaded “R” word. Rejection. Nobody likes the sting of being told no, and nobody likes failing. How do you stay confident when everyone is turning you down and everything is going wrong?

Confidence is all about consistency, baby. You have to practice those tough sales calls before you can make the sale. You have to make those calls and get told “no” consistently before you get a “yes”. Confidence comes with preparation. Consistently practice and you’ll be prepared. 

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It took me two whole months of sales calls before I got my first sale. Two months of being told no, getting rejected, and ignored. As cliche’ as it is, you’ll miss every shot you don’t take, so you have to keep shooting. I would have never gotten that ‘yes’ if I stopped making the calls. Rejection isn’t fun and consistency isn’t easy, but it leads to winning and winning is sexy. 

Like I said, you have to keep shooting, so you can’t dwell on your last shot. You’ll make some shots, you’ll miss some shots, so what? Focus on what’s next. No matter what you do, some people just won’t like you. And that’s okay, confidence isn’t being liked by everyone, it’s being okay when someone doesn’t. 

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There’s someone out there who wants what you have to offer, and they’ll never get it if you’re wasting your time with someone who doesn’t know what they want or isn’t interested. A clear rejection is better than a fake promise. Take the hit, deal with the rejection and move on to the person who needs what you have!

Quit dipping your toes in the water and jump in. The water is cold at first, but you’ll adjust. It’ll sting, but it’s the only way you’ll to face rejection. So stop waiting for the ‘perfect opportunity’–you’ll be waiting forever. Take the risk and jump in! Make the call, apply for the job, and ask the girl out. The worst they can say is no. And hey, that just means you’re one no closer to a yes.

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Winston Churchill defined success as, “Going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.” Stay energized. Hype yourself up, visualize yourself winning, read and listen to encouraging stuff, and invest your time into getting better. You’ll soon find that each rejection, each failure isn’t a step back, but a step forward. 

Shooter’s shoot! Consistency leads to confidence. When you’re confident you can focus on what lies ahead. When you know what’s next, jump in. Face each rejection with enthusiasm, and never be afraid to take that shot. You just might make it.

Live and Learn

Get Better Every Day

-Kaspar

Trust the Process

Good things take time. Rome wasn’t built in a day. Grind it out. Come on, we’ve heard them all. What does it all mean? How do we stay patient and trust the process?

Bruce Lee said it best, “The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.”  In a world full of distractions, stay focused. It’s so easy to get lost in videos on Facebook or put our new workout plan on hold. Staying focused requires a conscious effort. It’s more than just saying, “I’m going to get this done.” It’s taking action and doing it. I know this is much easier said than done. I think this blog is a perfect example. For months, I talked about starting this. I would get on the computer and about thirty minutes later I’m on Google, searching for “what’s the capital of Croatia?” (it’s Zagreb by the way). I had to make the decision to stay focused, make the time, and get it done.

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The distractions are real, and I’ve found it’s best just to turn them off. Are you trying to do homework, but can’t seem to stay off your phone? Be disciplined. Turn that bad boy off until the job is done. TV preventing you from preparing your budget for this month? That TV isn’t making you money, so shut it off and focus on the task at hand. Whenever I’m working out, I find it hard to stop myself from checking Facebook between reps or getting lost looking for the perfect workout song. I have to tell myself to turn that phone off and have laser-like focus. Focus leads to results.

I’ve been working out, consistently, for a few weeks and I’m still not ripped. What a rip off, right? I’m waking up early, devoting my spare time, and staying focused! What’s the deal, why aren’t my biceps pythons yet? Here we go, I’m going to say it… good things take time. Those good habits and small things done consistently over time will lead to results, and ultimately take you where you want to be. You have to stay focused and trust the process. 

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The worst thing you can do is quit because you’re not seeing immediate results. It takes time. The momentum you build will be lost the minute you decide to quit. After high school, I started working out with a personal trainer. It took time, but in the span of a year I raised my bench press from a feeble 145 (embarrassing) to 245. It took a lot of focus, early mornings, and trust.  I lost it when I decided to stop working out. I have to start back from zero. The results I gained from my previous workouts are gone. Consistent action creates consistent results. Stop being consistent and you stop getting results.

Don’t be discouraged…you will hit a wall. We all have our bad days. Doing the same thing over and over wears down on you. Don’t let the wall stop you from climbing over it. Be consistent and trust the process. Your consistent actions will lead to results. You’ll start that business, you will graduate, you’ll get married. There will be times you want to quit. After the third month of going to the gym, you’ll wonder why you’re still there. After the fiftieth bad relationship, you’ll wonder why you even bother dating. There is beauty in the struggle! Your results will be that much sweeter. Don’t let the day-to-day bring you down, wake up and get after it. See past the wall and get over it.

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Trust is built on consistency. Whether that be working out, building a relationship, or working your career. You have to consistently perform actions that lead to results. It won’t be easy–it’s not a quick fix or an easy process. You have to have that Bruce Lee, laser-like focus. The distractions have to be turned off. You can’t give up. Be patient, and trust the process. Results come over time–not over night.

Live and Learn

Get Better Every Day

-Kaspar

Challenge Presents Opportunity

Welcome and thanks for taking the time to check out my blog. I’ll start with who I am and what I’m about. My name is Kaspar and my passion is helping others. You will learn more about me as I continue this blog journey. My main goal of doing this is to share my experiences with you and touch your life through the encouragement this blog brings. I hope to give you a different perspective on life. My first post will be about challenges and the opportunities they present. Please send me an e-mail with any questions and also tell me what you think.

I think NBA legend, Kobe Bryant, summed it up best, “Everything negative- pressure, challenges- is all an opportunity for me to rise.” Wait, that almost sounds like pressure and negativity is a good thing? What if I told you it could be? Now, before you call me crazy-just check this out. Think about the accomplishments in your life, were they easy? No. You busted your tail to get an A in that class, you worked long hours to get that promotion, you spent countless hours and sweat equity to build those muscles, you earned your accomplishments.

How are those challenges a good thing, though? Quite simply, difficulty presents you with the opportunity to do what most people won’t. Most people (I’ve been guilty of this as well) are faced with something difficult and immediately say, “This isn’t worth it, I have better things to do.” And unfortunately, that’s where the line is drawn. We stop going to the gym, we stop running after work, and we stop going to class. That’s the good thing. Most people don’t do the things that are challenging or uncomfortable, and that gives us the opportunity to rise above pressure and do more than average.

Okay, that’s great, I’m motivated, but where do I start? I think stories are the best way to hammer a point across. Here’s what I mean…

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I’ve always strongly disliked getting up in the morning. (actual picture of me in the morning above) It’s really a multitude of factors…but mostly I’m just a night owl. It’s hard to go to sleep before midnight you know? I check Facebook at 9:15 and boom! 15 minutes later it’s 11:30. I’m sure we can all relate to that. But, I love basketball, and ever since I started working I never made time for it. I was too busy. That’s what I told myself and for two years I didn’t play basketball, didn’t go to the gym, I didn’t have time for it. Challenge presents opportunity, the only catch was, the opportunity was at 6:00 in the morning. It was up to me to not keep hitting snooze, put both feet on the ground, and play the game I love and work on being healthy. That’s the first step, find out what the challenge is and where your opportunity is. If it’s worth it, do it! 

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If you’ve never worked in a sales position, try it out. (Another actual picture) You will  face some challenges! Part of my responsibilities include cold calling and talking to extremely upset customers. It’s easy to get beat down and give up. Staying positive is essential, talk yourself up and find what motivates you. For me, it’s a little positive self-talk and just jumping in when I walk through the door. It’s still uncomfortable carrying on a conversation with someone I don’t know and who really doesn’t trust me. But, that pressure presents an amazing opportunity. It gives me the opportunity to break out of my comfort zone and create relationships with people I otherwise wouldn’t meet. When I first started, I would always talk myself out of making those tough calls, “Oh they don’t want to talk to me,” “I’m sure they’re busy, I won’t bother them.” They were all excuses. You will never overcome challenges unless you get up there and swing! That’s step two, stay positive, throw out your excuses, and do what makes you uncomfortable. 

After three semesters of college, my GPA was a solid 2.1. Ouch, that’s rough. I didn’t like school, I would find any reason not to go to class. I was faced with the challenge of working while in college, and it was beating me to a pulp. My next point, NEVER give up. My attitude was defeated, no matter what I did, in my mind, I couldn’t be successful in school. That’s ultimately why I was struggling, once I decided to change, things began to turn around. I showed up to class, put in the work, and three semesters later, I brought my GPA up to a 3.1. I went from talking about dropping out to graduation! Never give up, challenge presents you the opportunity to rise. 

Challenges present opportunities. Say it with me. Next time something is tough, remember it’s tough because it’s an opportunity. It’s an opportunity to grow, it’s an opportunity to do what most people won’t, it’s an opportunity to rise above the pressure and be great. Do what makes you uncomfortable, don’t let excuses dictate your life. If it’s valuable, you’ll make time for it. Never give up, the challenge presents opportunity. 

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Live and learn, get better every day! 

-Kaspar